Feb 4, 2020

Talking about pressure

Is pressure relative?

I have worked all my life except the 6 months or so, that allowed me to look after dad after his bypass and get out of one pressure cooker, only to get into another one 6 months later.

If a break had been possible, in and out I might have been able to enjoy some small amount of time seeing my kids grow up.

Regrets come too late. Life would have been drastically different if I had decided to do things very differently.

If my life growing up had been different, where would I be today.

Would I have had three kids?
Would my path have take a different turn.?
Heaven only knows.

Mar 4, 2019

Lost and Found ATM service

That's me, that's what being 'mum'  means.

lost and found
sock finder
button fixer

Feb 9, 2019

Staycation in Changi Cove, good for a short break.

 A 2 night vacation with mum, dad, and my son, not to mention with the caregivers in tow too. It was unexpected pleasant for the most part.  The weather was great but it was HOT. I have to say kudos to Changi Cove for the effort to getting us side by side and for a room which made wheelchair movement in and out of the bathroom easy. Breakfast was good too, a good spread, and dinner was surprisingly good too, at the White Olive, the one and only restaurant, when we tried it for one night. 

The sunset was great on the second day, where there was less cloud cover on the horizon.
It was not boring. Plenty of things to do and see or just plain chill anywhere on the beach. If you like to take in the outdoors by walking, this is a good place to go to. Lovely sea air, little smelly at times, but still scenic enough for me away from skyscrappers and traffic. There is no pool on the premises, but you can use the Beach club pool, if you want. So it's great if you have kids too.

We spent like half a day at the beach, had lunch and dinner at the Village, where mostly non-Chinese stores were open for business. The Village if you don't mind is a 15-20min walk from the hotel,.  The beach was pretty crowded but that still beats queing in a causeway jam for hours to or fro anytime, which is typical for CNY activity.
Changi Point

The boardwalk is like a hop and a skip away from the hotel entrance, it is partly wheelchair accessible for most of the way upto the front of the Changi Beach club but not toward the right side heading towards the Yacht club and Changi Village direction mainly because of steps. But for the folks I think it was plenty distance, given the boards on the walk were pretty rickety before you hit the seaboard.

Second night, we paid a visit to the Cedro Bar which is just 2 minutes up the road at a nearby hotel for nightcap with dad. Easy enough to get his chair in and out. 
A discovery, The Coastal Settlement is actually a restaurant along the road nearby too, just before the yacht club or sailing club which is hidden further beyond the main road of Netheravon road. 
No I'm not posting hotel pictures here, you can get those online.
Couple of other hotels, nearby, might check them out too...a 2 night staycation doesn't sound like a uninteresting idea anymore.

Feb 3, 2019

Time to regroup.

One year I planned a trip to Malacca, left so early and still got caught up in a jam at the causeway, and another on the way back. That's what public holidays create for those who don't leave the country by flight.but by car. Oh well, that in itself is an adventure of a different kind.
Another year, I stayed in Singapore, took the folks for a picnic at Pasir Ris and ended up breaking my ankle on a rented cycle.
Should I be weary, sure I should be.

I want to chill with just me-time, but sometimes you just want to make the old folks a little happier with the small things.

No nothing noble nor is it a major sacrifice, it is not impossible to chill while making that effort. It's just, sometimes, many times I just don't want to plan or do,   don't want to be forever thinking about upcoming never-ending deadlines and issues.

Life is so stressful, my head is so full I can't see the path in front of me, I've wondered off and need to get centered again.

Looking forward to a good CNY break and some positive out of it besides fatigue.

Aug 12, 2017

No God is not hiding. You have to JUST ask.

I recognize that we all have different problems to deal with and inconveniences, whether it be our selves or just demands on our time.
Somehow it is balanced based on how much we can give and not how much we are willing to give. We are called to perform our duty or called to just heed our conscience.

Many of us have aging parents and we have been enabled in different ways to look after them. For some there is no wheelchair, just your time which you have and for some there is a wheelchair yet you have a car and siblings when time is stretched on each's part. And then there are the family squabbles to put obstacles in our way. God bless those who give with their heart.

As I finished the chapter about Edna's hospital I had this thought that God comes out of hiding where there is no one to help.
Then again why do these atrocities happen? What's wrong with man... being what he is not -infallible... weak.

Give to KIVA. It's a good way to help the poor even if you don't have much.

Mother Theresa is not the only saint who lived in our times. There are so many more women who endanger themselves to help other women live with dignity. Eventhough they have undergone suffering themselves they continue to fight for others, If only I had 1/10 of their spirit.

Feb 13, 2017

Nesting sunbird in(off) my balcony..

Nature finds a way... I think it was Sam Neil who said this in Jurassic Park and he is right.

These sunbirds they have decided to make urban living work for them.

While the sparrows and the mynas are sticking to the trees, these little guys have decided to try HDB, hanging off my Bougainvillea!

They aren't quite in my balcony, so I can't charge squatter's rates !

Jun 1, 2016

My Grandmother Sends Her Regards and ApologisesMy Grandmother Sends Her Regards and Apologises by Fredrik Backman
My rating: 5 of 5 stars

It is so seriously funny at times and it's all from the perspective of a very intelligent 7 year old who has grown up in the close company of her very busy, eccentric, courageous grandmother. Elsa translates everyone she knows to a character in the fairy tales of life ( a land to love, mourn, war etc) that her granny wove for her and solves her problems in the real world by those tales. Wikipedia is Elsa's gateway to understanding big words.

There's something to be learnt about living life from a 7 year old and a grandmother.
There's also some truths that hit close to home, about the conflicts of mothering and having a career and it's impact on one''s child.

It's about relationships and wounded experiences and love that happens under one roof among different families, individuals all around Elsa, the kid.
" She thought I was a.... a nagging busybody" says Britt-Marie..
Elsa asks her "Why are you like that, then?"
Because you need to care about something, Elsa. As soon as anyone cared about anything in this world your granny always dismissed it as "nagging", but if you don't care about anything you're actually not alive at all. You're only existing...."

I'd recommend it to everyone who needs to laugh.

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May 23, 2016

What do I know !

So I upgraded my tires, technically it's called plus sized my tires to get a new set of fancy rims. Bridgestone tyres are good,
I merely followed the advise of MEN in the family.  Better road holding and all that , I never considered there was a downside to plus sizing but there is, after much reading and searching.
I think I got a good deal with a trade-in value on my smaller tires (which I'm told are less popular) and new rims (not too bad).

So for the next week I'm driving my car and I'm none too comfortable with it. My old car was less bumpy besides the reverberation (old what!), had less side to side wobble and I thought maybe it just takes getting used to.

Bu when my son, complained about the very same thing I thought , ok I can't be wrong. I should just go with my gut, expert or not on cars, accessories and tires. I know what it feels to be comfortable in a car. So I lived with it for another week because it's all office hours for servicing

So I decided either the tires are too hard or maybe the guys at the first tire place did not balance my wheels after replacing or there's something not sitting right between the suspension and the new wheels. Either way I needed them to check, get a second opinion or just go back to the dealer service centre and pay the price for vanity (upsizing ) but at least get the right advice and correct the problem asap.

Maybe it was providence that prevented me from going back to the original all auto service place for checking. It was a public holiday, so they were closed. So I went to another,(made up my mind to pay for the service of balancing), found a tyre service shop and got some additional advise (guys were local , spoke English) and understanding.
Lo and behold - apparently my wheels were not balanced, all 4 of them.
So that was one.

Second, the pressure was 250 (guy says more suited for 2000cc) when it should be more like 220.. too hard.. you think !!. Advise: my tyre is a T series, if I want good grip get the S. Hmmm!

Were they in a hurry ? Did they forget?   Do new tyres need balancing , Yes apparently so .

Should I be upset. ??

Well I learnt a thing or two. 

May 10, 2016

Punggol Beach

Punggol Beach looked seriously cleaned up when we were there 2 weekends ago. Is the water clean, I doubt that still as you have the boats and tankers still plying the waterway which is still pretty narrow.
Still a lovely sight to behold, a long narrow beach. Lots of rocks added.

You have the small mangrove plants along the sides, but tese lovely twiners with the pick flowers were along the path connector edges, although I have no idea of the plant name yet.

Bike shack is up for us to take our rides.
Haven't gotten to Coney Island yet, although I think it's still called Serangoon island on my map.

Feb 14, 2016

Lovely Malacca .. Deja Vu

We did a drive in the Getz all the way to Malacca and it was smooth all the way. Not bad for an old small car.(thumbs up!!)

Let's not talk about the HICCUP getting through the causeway from 5AM. You expect that on a public holiday.

But hey, it was worth it. Managed to get in pereanakan food and Chendol, little bit of shopping, fireworks, firecrackers just after midnight of the CNY.

Shops, well mostly closed on CNY Day1 although there were some still opened. Food not an issue, the sights were mostly open.

Pony rides at the base on St Paul's Hill...

Feb 13, 2016

Strength to rise and courage to do it

Still I Rise
You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Maya Angelou 


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